Jason Grey sent us this email
Dear rumpole, my wife of 15 years died monday at 4:41. she had struggled against cancer for 8 long years and couldn't go on she leaves me our 8 year old son jordan and literally hundreds of friends behind. I ask you for a favor. ileana was a court reporter in the building from 1990 until 1997 many there knew her and loved her. she was truly the kindest sweetest person ever known. I have had a harder time dealing with this than I thought i would, even though it was long coming. here is my request: I am asked as many as 20 times a day how is Ily? How is your wife? I dont think i can tell 100 people what happened and answer all the questions ....
Could You pls post some type of announcement?
Rumpole: The funeral details are in blue. It's a link.
thank you. JG
ReplyDeleteI am very sorry to read about this - and Jason, you have my deepest sympathies + my hope that there are better moments in your future.
ReplyDeleteI wish you the strength to persevere, in spite of this dark moment. // ABE
I graduated college with Ily, she was a friend as well as. I'm sorry about your loss Jason. we lost a good person.
ReplyDeleteAt Jason's request we now allow comments. On topic and respectful. There is an on line guest book at the funeral home website. We suggest you use that.
ReplyDeleteJason, my deepest condolences to you and your family. It's always a tragedy to lose a loved one and even more so when that person is still so vibrant and young. May you have the strength and courage to navigate this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteJason, may your beautiful Ily rest in peace, may God hold her in the palm of His hand, and may He give you peace.
ReplyDeleteMr. Grey,
ReplyDeleteI have never met you or your wife. I honestly don't know who you are. However, I did lose someone in my life to cancer and I can empathize with what you must be going through. There will be brighter days ahead. I am sorry for your loss and I pray that God gives you the strength to persevere.
May she live on in the memories of her loved ones.
ReplyDeletesorry jason. you are a great guy and a great dad. be strong.
ReplyDeleteJason,
ReplyDeleteI have not seen her in a long time but, I remember her warm smile and kind words.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
Mike Catalano
Jason
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I rememmber Ileana well, she took many a depo for me. She was the nicest person in the world. A true beauty inside and out. My heart goes out to you and your son.
David Sisselman
Jason, so very sorry for you and your son. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteJason,
ReplyDeleteIleana was as warm and friendly as you portray her in your notice. You will find great solice in your son and the lives you will live together. Never lose sight of the future, while remembering and honoring the past.
The thoughts and prayers of all that know both of you will be with you now.
Jason I am so touched to learn of your tragic loss. I remember seeing you and your beautiful wife and son on the flight from Stewart Airport in Newburgh many months ago. You all looked so happy and full of life. I had no idea of the courageous battle you were waging.
ReplyDeleteYou have my deepest sympathies and prayers for a better tomorrow.
Kathy Hamilton
Ileana Grey was a beautiful person, inside and out, and she of all people did not deserve to suffer as she did. Her loss is a tragedy. Jason and their son are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteJason:
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of your loss.
My wife died of cancer four years ago. She was sick for six months and I always knew what the end result would be. Even though I had plenty of time to prepare, nothing I did prepared me for the devastating sense of loss I felt. The only thing that kept me going was our then-15 year old son, who I had to be there for. I realized that even though I lost my best friend of thirty years, he lost his mom as a kid- a far greater loss than mine.
Many well-intentioned people tried to help, but I just wanted to be left alone and not have to answer the same questions over and over. You will find a way to communicate your needs to your friends and family. There are a lot of idiots who will tell you their "cancer story" and how their loved one survived. Try hard not to kill these people.
Today, I have had to move on and live the rest of my life. I have found happiness and joy, but there will always be a hole in my heart and my soul.
One day, if you feel like talking, I will be there for you. It will help me in my grieving process as much as it will help you.
David S Markus
Jason, my condolences to you and your family in this difficult time. My prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteJason god has taken Ileana to a better place and he will also give you the strength and courage to endure the future.
ReplyDeleteShe is a special person and lives through you and the family.
Abel B.
Ileana gave me the sense that I could be ok and that my world was relatively unimportant---while she was for so long fighting this terrible disease. If only I could have part of her courage, I will have lived well.
ReplyDeleteJason, I wish you and the boy sincere blessings, and in time her memory will hopefully bring peace.
Jason, you and your child have my deepest sympathies.
ReplyDeleteI pray for you and your child that you may persevere over this terrible tragedy.
I knew your wife from court and she was a wonderful and classy woman.
Jason,
ReplyDeleteOur family sends our depeest condolences to you and your family.
We are out of town, but please know we are there for you.
Such a loss will never be understood but it reminds us that we must treasure the time we share with the people we know and love.
Lenny and Dianne Glick
Un abbraccio fratello Jason.
ReplyDeleteStiamo tutti pensando di te.
Jason:
ReplyDeleteIleana was a nice a person as any other I ever met on this planet.
My deepest condolences to you, your son and your family. Please be strong for you son--you are a strong man and he will need your strength.
May Ileana rest in peace.
Jason has always been a great attorney, but a better person. Only better times in the future.
ReplyDeleteThe community is blessing you and thinking of you during these difficult times.
I feel blessed to have known Ileana. The saying, "only the good die young" apparently and unfortunately is very true. Ileana was beautiful inside and out. She always had a big smile on her face regardless of how she really (physically) felt. She was couragous! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. She will be missed!
ReplyDeleteso sorry to hear of the loss.
ReplyDeleteMR.GRAY: I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF YOU, BUT I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. KEEP UP THE GOOD FIGHT FOR YOURSELF AND MORE IMPPORTANTLY FOR YOUR SON.
ReplyDeleteJason, I'm so glad Ily met you. I remember when you first used to come to the court reporting pool to talk to her....and talk and talk and talk. Boy, can you talk! If it was her destiny to have this illness, I just thank God that she had you. You took very good care of her and she had a lot of fun with you and a most beautiful son. She was so sweet and so funny. I'm so sorry for your pain, but she deserved the best and so I'm so happy she had you. You're a good man.
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone, thank you for your kind words.
ReplyDeleteJason Grey
how could you be a trialmaster and not know mr. grey?
ReplyDeleteI read this blog regularly. I rarely post. Occasionally, I think of a witty comment, but generally refrain from posting it unless I believe that it adds something significant.
ReplyDeleteI did not know Ileana. Perhaps, I would know Mr. gray if I saw him. None the less, I wanted to express my deepest condolences to Mr. Gray and his family. I am saddened to hear of his loss. - JK
Jason, Scott and I are so sorry for your loss. We know that words can not begin to ease the pain you and your family are going through. You are in our thoughts and prayers my friend. Warmly, David Young and Scott Bernstein
ReplyDeleteJason my deepest condolences and prayers.
ReplyDeleteBob P
I have found that the pain is easier to handle by movin into a new home. The loss will always be there, the hurt will never fade, but such a loss can consume you personally.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.
I am very saddened to hear about your wife's passing. I can't imagine what you're going through. I wish you all the strength in the world to get through this.
ReplyDeleteJason,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear of your loss.
Mark Vargo--Once upon a time the "C" in J. Snyder.
Ily was one of my closet friends. My chemo buddy. We spoke several times a week. I loved her so much. Weeks before she passed she gave me a perfume set from Victoria's Secret for my birthday. A very nice gesture. That was Ily gave selflessly. It was very hard for me to function when she passed. I cried but two days before she died she texted me and told me she was tired. I hope Jordan is doing better.
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